The idea of checking partners’ cellphones most likely existed long before their widespread adoption. Not only does this show disrespect and mistrust, snooping on your partners’ phone is an invasion of privacy. Even if you are curious avoid anything like it, brace up and talk to your partner about it. There is absolutely no reason why you should go behind his or her back to start checking their cellphone. If you are still thinking of doing so, here are some reasons why it is a terrible idea.
You Have Trust Issues
When you are in a relationship, your partner trusts you enough to leave their phone in your care. The least you could do is do that then back and offer them the same exact trust they gave you. Secretly searching their phone makes it easy to kill the trust and respect they once had for you. If you are in doubt about anything, take the decency to ask, rather than snoop. Besides, everyone is entitled to a certain level of privacy, including you. Don’t take that away from someone else, especially if it is someone you genuinely love.
You Wouldn’t Want It
If you are being honest with yourself, you wouldn’t want your partner going through your phone, even if you don’t have anything to hide. It is simply an invasion of privacy. You wouldn’t want this to be done to you, so don’t do it to them either. If you are in doubt about anything at all, feel free to ask, as it is the only way you can get the truth. It gets worse if your partner catches you in the act, as you will look insecure, needy and desperate.
You Might Misinterpret Things
Oftentimes, certain things speak for themselves. But there is a high probability that you will get the wrong idea about anything you see in the phone. Snooping often comes off from suspicion about what you feel might be happening, so you are all set and ready to “catch” them doing something. This can lead to you jumping to conclusions which is not good for the relationship or marriage.
It Can Ruin Your Relationship
Snooping on your partner’s phone can ruin your relationship. It takes you on a path of self-destruction as you will constantly be insecure and anxious about what your partner is doing every time. This would make you nag and complain every single time, and this kind of bad energy can make your partner stay away from you. This negative energy that you have set can ruin your relationship in a very short period of time.
At the end of the day, if you are really in love with your partner, you will trust him or her and nurture the relationship. You will also know your boundaries and know when to draw the line. If the relationship is truly a happy one, there would be no point in snooping on their cellphones. As risky as love might be, show respect by not checking your partner’s phone.