Everyone does something they regret once in a while. Going through your boyfriend’s phone could be that thing. Trust is an essential component of every relationship, and when you go through your boyfriend’s phone, trust tends to be broken both ways – you break his trust, and if you find anything that suggests he hasn’t been completely faithful to you, you begin to stop trusting him.
You’ve gone through your boyfriend’s phone and found incriminating content and are now wondering what to do. This is a tricky situation, seeing that you broke his trust, and he broke yours, and the tables could turn both ways.
As much as you need to know what to do, it is also important for you to consider why you went through the phone. We will be addressing possible reasons why you did it in the first place and then explore ways to fix the issue at hand.
Why you went through his phone
Being in a relationship with a person means you trust that their intentions are sincere. When that level of trust is established, there is basically no need to snoop around their personal effects.
The fact that you went through your boyfriend’s phone is a red flag: it means that you don’t trust him enough. Acknowledging the fact that you have trust issues with your boyfriend is the first step in solving this problem. It’s also an indication of insecurity, and it is also important to acknowledge your insecurities.
Now, what do you do?
Since we’ve established that it wasn’t in your place to go through his phone and that you have a bit of trust and insecurity issues, we will now share ways of getting yourself out of the mess.
Acknowledge your wrongdoing, to him of course
You’re going to have to talk to him about the fact that you went through his phone and found something, and it’s best to begin with acknowledging that you had no right to do what you did.
Yes, you may have found something incriminating on his phone, but the best first step for you to make is to establish the fact that you breached his trust and privacy. You should be aware that he may get angry at you for this and be prepared for his reaction.
Be entirely honest about how you feel
Although you will need to organize your thoughts so that you’re not overly emotional, you also need to be entirely honest about how you feel about what you found on his phone. Ask him as many questions as you need to get closure. You shouldn’t act like nothing happened and internalize your feeling. You will end up feeling worse.
Carefully consider the state of the relationship
You should also consider the state of your relationship and evaluate whether the love has been lost between you two. You went through his phone which is something persons that trust their boyfriends rarely do. He had something incriminating on his phone, another red flag. As much as you might hate to admit it, the relationship isn’t exactly great. Considering the state of the relationship will also help you to take the right steps whether in making things right or leaving the relationship.
It is important you remember that you will be tempted to jump to conclusions; please don’t do that.