How and/or why did you become a therapist?
I knew I wanted to be a therapist at a very young age. I was born into quite a bit of turmoil and thanks to my school therapists I was given a chance to overcome the obstacles that life gave me. I wanted to give back the gift that had been given to me. My life has been dedicated to learning how to grow and overcome & I have a passion of sharing what I have discovered is helpful to me.
What are the most rewarding aspects of being a therapist?
The most rewarding moments are when I see clients shift. Limiting beliefs can be held in the unconscious for many years and create havoc in life as it impairs perception and the resulting emotional behavioral response. The moment a person sees that is such a gift.
What’s unique or special in your background or approach to interpersonal relationships?
I have a few things that are unique. First, using EMDR, Bio-feedback and other “trauma” based modalities to help clients release “baggage” that creates problems in their relationships, is a big part of what we do at LTC (Love Therapy Center). 2nd we are much more involved than traditional talk therapy, we also have a Communication Guide that informs much of the therapy. It is a framework that we work from. It is a free download on the website – http://lovetherapycenter.org if you would like to check it out. I always recommend clients download this before getting started as it can give them a good head start. 3rd – our approach and philosophy is based on self-love first. Learn to love, know and accept yourself first and all relationships become much easier. Lastly, we have an interesting blend of Eastern and Western Philosophy Spiritual practices and Quantum empirical studies that are interwoven into the therapeutic approach.
What are your favorite or most interesting interpersonal relationship tips/advice?
You can find many good tips in the Communication Guide, my favorite is switching from communicating what you DON’T like and instead saying what you WOULD like. It is an innocent mistake that we all make – speaking in the negative – but it has the potential to be devastating in relationships. Even more, making this one change can also have a powerful positive impact on an individual level. When you start thinking of what you would like instead of what you don’t have, you already start to feel better, it gives you hope and is empowering. Then you can approach your partner, friend, colleague more from a place of inner peace and being grounded. This gives you a MUCH better chance of being successful.
What are some things about therapy that you want to increase public awareness about?
The interconnection of mind, body and spirit is profound and is slowly gaining traction as a valid part of Western Medicine. More and more studies about stress and the effects of stress on the body and physiology are being done and proving the connection. Society is still overcoming a bit of shame around therapy and having a therapist, but little by little we are overcoming that. Seeing a therapist is not just for treating mental illness, yes there is a place for that as well, but therapy is also an amazing place to start if you want to do ANYTHING better in life. Relationships, Work, Career, Money, Health, Spiritual Growth, anything can be vastly improved by getting yourself in the right mindset. In fact I might go so far as to say that is a key ingredient. It starts with mindset and that’s what therapy can help with.
What are some of the biggest mistakes a therapist or patient can make?
The single biggest mistake a patient / client can make is giving up when it seems to be taking too long or if they have a setback in their therapeutic journey. The saying, “it’s darkest before the dawn” is very true. I often see big shifts in those who persist through the times that it seems nothing is changing.
The biggest mistake therapists make, in my view, is to think they shouldn’t be working harder than their clients. This is a mutual relationship that should take as much effort on my part, if not more at times. If a person is not ready to put in the work but they are coming in, then it is our jobs to figure out what is preventing them from putting in the work to get them to the place they want to be.
Bio
Our goal is to offer you the most comprehensive, supportive and effective Psychotherapy that can be found.
Yaji Tramontini founded Love Therapy Center in 2008 but it was a seed planted long before. Yaji is an expert practitioner of many different forms of Psychotherapy and takes a very personal and passionate interest in finding techniques and methods that truly work to release trauma, so you will be sure to get the most current, effective help available. Love Therapy is unlike your typical counseling and talk Therapy in that you will find more guidance and involvement from your therapist, using guided techniques that are inclusive of mind, body and soul.
Originally from the East Coast, Yaji graduated from Boston University with a double major in Psychology and Philosophy. Beginning her career at BU as an engineering major, she realized her true calling was to give back what she had been given in learning to heal and overcome the past. Thus she brings with her a unique, personal perspective on what works in addition to a strong emphasis on math and science. She additionally participated in several cognitive behavioral (CBT) empirical, evidence based studies, given lectures on the intersection of Cognitive Behavioral Science with Spirituality at JFK University, presented at the Association for the Advancement of Psychosynthesis, and has has over 10,000 hours of experience working with couples and individuals to release trauma wounds, create great relationships and most importantly, become congruent, with higher levels of self-esteem, and self-love.
Some other fun facts about Yaji: She is the mother of a beautiful, young boy born in 2010. She is a musician, a self-admitted closet geek with a penchant for fantasy adventure and MMORPG’s, and has a fascination with the latest technology gadgets.
License, certifications, and degrees:
State Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, MFC45878 – 2006
Master of Arts (M.A.) – Institute of Transpersonal Psychology – 2003
Bachelor of Arts (B.A.) – Boston University – 1994
Certified Psychosynthesis Instructor – 2005
Shamanic Studies 2006 – 2012
Certified EMDR practitioner – 2010
Positive Discipline Certified Instructor – 2012
Master NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Practitioner – 2014
Hypnotherapist – 2014
MER® (Mental Emotional Release) Practitioner – 2014
Certified Supervisor for Psychotherapy Interns – 2009
Yoga Teaching Credentials (CorePower) – 2017
Bio-Feedback – Heart Math Institute – 2018