How do we measure a woman’s value? Is it by her looks? Clothes? Job? Success? It varies from person to person who assesses the worth of a woman. However, there are general indicators that tell her value. Here are some of those indicators that say whether a woman is of high value, which are backed with quotes by remarkable women.
She thinks before she speaks
Words are very powerful. Many hearts have already been broken because of hurtful words. A woman who knows how to control her tongue is a rare find in this world full of nagging women. A woman with value knows her way around words. She contemplates first rather than blabber on and on. She watches what she says and carefully words her thoughts for she knows the consequences of speaking while being overwhelmed with emotions.
“Life isn’t about just talking, it’s about thinking too.” – Marie Symeou
She knows when to surrender
Winning isn’t everything if it costs you your relationship. Women who cannot let go of something are tough to deal with. When a woman insists on turning a petty fight into a big deal, it means she is not humble enough to swallow her pride even just for a tad. The idea of surrendering brings up fear in her because she associates it with loss. If a woman surrenders, it means she also surrenders her power and need to control. She is willing to cease taking charge. She embraces humility.
“The creative process is a process of surrender, not control.” -Julia Cameron
She listens
According to a study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, men found it more attractive when they feel like women are listening to them. They consider women to be more feminine when they listen and make them feel as if their needs are tended to. A person can find it therapeutic just speaking to someone who is willing to lend a listening ear. It is not always that one must reply to be responsive. To listen is to understand. Listening intently is also a way of being responsive, and that is one thing that high-value women always possess.
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.” BrenĂ© Brown
She knows how to respect
Men are not the only ones required to show respect when it comes to treating women. It goes the other way around, too. In fact, it is part of human nature that all men and women respect one another. Women of high value are not needed to be reminded of this for it is in her nature to be respectful of others. She is respected in turn, by the people around her.
“If we lose love and self-respect for each other, this is how we finally die.” – Maya Angelou
She takes care of herself
Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than knowing that she can take care of herself. Making herself the prettiest of all is not the self-care we are talking about here. It’s about protecting her whole well-being. She takes charge of her physical wellness and chooses to live healthily. She carefully picks what she eats and takes time to break a little sweat and exercise. She makes sure that her activities do not take a toll on her mental wellness. Whatever goodness she brings inside of her reflects on her outside appearance. She glows from within.
“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen
She is grateful
“Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”, they said. If you think that only expensive things can make a woman happy, then better reevaluate the way you generally think about women. Not all women are blinded by shiny things. A woman’s happiness is not defined by material things but in contentment. A truly content woman is someone who’s appreciative of the tiniest things in life – a beautiful sunset, a quiet night, or a partner with a great sense of humor. If a woman shows acknowledgment over her man’s littlest efforts, then that’s how you know she’s a keeper.
“Appreciation can make a day — even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” – Margaret Cousins
She knows when to be vulnerable
A strong woman does not easily open herself. She guards her walls and stays in power. She is not helpless. However, a woman of strength also knows when to be vulnerable. When she is ready, she unclothes her inner beauty. She surrenders her power and it leaves her defenseless. She opens herself up and removes all layers that shelter her emotionally. Being in that position does not show weakness but incredible strength for she has mustered enough courage to permit herself into being in that state.
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” – BrenĂ© Brown